For those of you in loving relationships, I hope you had the most AH-mazing Valentine's Day possible, and have fallen even deeper in love with each other!
For those of you who spent the day 'Single,' then I wish for you to find great love throughout the next year, whether that be with a mate, amazing friends, or yourself!
However...If you do find 'The One' this year, then PLEASE let me caution you against something that I see all too often:
The Facebook Relationship...and Breakup!
I am specifically talking about the couples that play out their entire courtship online for all to see.
Now, don't get me wrong. I understand! You are with that person who not only knocks your socks off, but also washes/dries/and folds them!
You want the world to know that you are in a relationship with this person. Go ahead, gurl! That is wonderful. Change your relationship status to: In a Relationship.
And if for some reason, things don't work out down the road, then you will inevitably change your status back to 'single.'
That is not what I am talking about here...
Over the weekend, I noticed that an acquaintance of mine had recently changed his status back to 'single,' and I have to admit...something inside of me wanted to laugh.
I know, I know...that sounds mean, and I wish him the best, I really do. However, he had been in a relationship for the past few months, and I swear to God...I felt like I was in the relationship with them!
It was taxing, let me tell you!
Every single Facebook status update went something like this:
"My adorable boyfriend made me dinner tonight. I love you, boo!"
"Enjoying a relaxing morning, cuddling with the love of my life."
"Having a bowl of cereal that my baby went to the kitchen and got for me!"
"Taking a dump while my sweetie pie is taking a shower..."
Ok, the last one, I was being a tad facetious!
These status updates are not god-awful when they stand alone...it's just that they happen
Also, every picture that they uploaded daily was just of the 2 of them. On their daily walk, at a nice cafe. Hugging, kissing... SO IN LOVE!!!
I'm happy for you, and glad that you're in love, but please stop making me want to Barf at your overwhelming joy.
While looking at my news feed a couple days ago, I saw it and will admit that I froze for a moment in shock:
"________ went from being 'in a relationship' to 'single.'"
What??? What happened? I thought you were SO in love?
If I read correctly, that was the person you were going to spend the rest of your life with!
And then I chuckled.
I'm sure in the next few weeks, there is a possibility that the status will change from 'single' to 'it's complicated', then to 'in a relationship,' back to 'it's complicated' again, and repeat...
You know you've seen it!
Look...I want to know that you are happy, and in a relationship. Just be smart about how you publish things. I hope you are not declaring your undying love to someone that you have been together with for a mere few months. Give it a little time! Get stable, yo!
On a last note...If you ARE breaking up with someone, MAKE SURE you are the first to change that status back to 'single!' Otherwise, you may look like you are the one still desperately clinging on...or didn't see the breakup coming! :)