Sunday, July 19, 2009

You Want A Piece of Me?...

What do you do when you see someone being attacked? Should you get involved? Do you pretend like you don't see what is going on?

I gotta tell you...

People who start fights with others for no good reason are douchebags...plain and simple! I can say this because I know from experience.

Can't we all just get along? Geez Louise!!!

Don't get me wrong...I'm not talking about people who defend themselves or their friends. I am speaking of the "instigators." You know who I am talking about: The ones who usually do it in front of their pals to prove how manly they are, or just simply get a kick out of bullying people around.

**The random guy who cuts you off with his car, and then when you smack into him he verbally attacks you for f*cking up his vehicle.

**The girl in the bar who will bitch you out because you accidentally looked in her direction.

**The insecure guy with such low-self esteem that will punch you because his girlfriend shows interest in you.

...and no, being drunk is not an excuse!

Saturday night, I was faced with a choice...and I chose to defend an acquaintance of mine. I could not sit back and watch a bully attack him.

Now... in order to not sound like a hypocrite, I need to let you know that, unfortunately, I have gotten into a few tiffs in the past. My friends who have known me for quite some time have seen me lose my temper and go after people who (at the time) I felt deserved it.

(Sorry Brian, Mike, Curtis, Chris, Terry...etc....) LOL!

Hey, at least many of those people that I've fought with, I have now befriended and we are on good terms. :)

Age and wisdom are good things: You learn to take an extra breath or two when someone pisses you off, and you understand that walking away from a situation can be the best solution, allowing you to rationally confront the other person at another time.

But any instigator out there who tries to pick a fight with me or any of my friends, and it comes to the point of having to defend myself physically, you bet your ass I will!

As much as I can't stand jerks who start ridiculous, unwarranted fights, I cannot allow myself or the ones I love to become victims.

So...I am walking home from a bar on Saturday night(well..Sunday morning...) and about half a block in front of me, I see an acquaintance of mine walking alongside another guy that I didn't know.

For story purposes, I will call my acquaintance "B."

Everything seemed fine, until a couple minutes later when I see the other guy reach over and slap 'B'. Then, 'B' sat down on the ground and put his hands over his head, as if he is shielding himself from another blow.

I was shocked! How do you react to seeing something like that?

Well, I caught up to them within seconds and couldn't ignore the fact that someone I knew had just been hit, so I asked, "What's going on?"

I was basically told to 'mind my own business' by the other guy. If both of them had said that to me, then I would've gladly continued on my way home to get to the delicious chicken nuggets in my freezer. :)

However, 'B' had that look on his face as if he didn't want me to leave. So, i told the other guy to leave him alone, still politely at this point.

That's when the other guy decides he was going to kick 'B', and started yelling some things. (Talk about kick someone when they are down...)

All of a sudden...I don't know what got into me, but I went into, "OH HELL NAH!" mode, and pushed that guy up against the building. I held him there for a second (while he was able to 'sort-of' land a very light swipe to my head...bastard!) and then told him to "get the f*ck out of here!"

Now, I know I'm not the biggest guy in the world...but he must've realized that I was serious, because he ended up yelling a couple more things, but then walked away. Or...maybe he realized that he was outnumbered 2 to 1.

Look...I hate violence as much as the next person, but I can't stand bullies even more!

I don't have a clue what started the fight between them, or the details of how they knew each other; All I know is that someone that I happen to know was getting hit. And the funny thing...I don't even know 'B' very well!

Hopefully 'B' didn't instigate the fight, or I would feel real stupid defending him.
(Although NO ONE should hit another person! Talk it out, y'all!)

So...would you have done the same thing? Should I have continued walking?

I don't know...but i did what I felt was right at the time.

Next time, I'm taking a cab home...


  1. That's a tough call. If chicken nuggets were waiting i probably wouldve raced home to them. lol

  2. It's always a tough call whether or not to step in if you haven't seen the whole "event" unfold, but I'd say you did the right thing. I'm probably not the most unbiased party to ask though, since I once broke a guys nose for picking on my little sister...

  3. Adam, you're right. I guess I sort of assessed the situation and felt that I wouldn't really have been in much danger myself. Overall, just a sucky situation to have walked past...

  4. I think you did the right thing, sometimes you have to step in and take a little control. I was gay-bashed in the Castro area of SF several years ago by 3 thugs, it was right on Castro St. during the busy evening commute home...lots of people around. NO ONE helped me! Luckily I walked away without a scratch, but I was a little dis-oriented as they had me on he ground hitting and kicking me while I remained in a fetal position. I'm not a huge guy, and I knew I was out numbered. Good for you Paul!
    P.S. Chicken Nuggets are bad for you.

  5. I'd be careful around Berlin -- about a week and a half ago, I was kinda beat up there -- just trying to get a cab. I was way too drunk and by that time, I was alone. I would recommend always staying with a buddy (although I know it's not always possible). I don't remember the details, but I remember talking to police. It could have been much worse, and I'm not sure what stopped it. Maybe it was someone like you who stepped in? Or, maybe he saw the police coming?? I was too much of a drunk to remember.

  6. That is awful! I am so sorry to hear about the bashings that you guys experienced. Like I said, people are such douchebags!

    I'm glad to hear that you guys are ok.

  7. I'm curious Paul... Did you buddy say what happened after the other guy left?

  8. Vaguely...he pretty much just said what an asshole he was. Honestly, i think it was a domestic issue... Since I don't really know him that well, I didn't go any deeper than that.